Life is fleeting. I may be here today, gone tomorrow. We all die. It may be sudden and tragic, or slow and coming. The end is all the same. There is the afterlife but that is a post for another day.
What then is my legacy? What am I leaving behind? To my family, my children, my loved ones, the ones who continue living on earth while I have gone.
And maybe that's why social media is so popular these days, because we want to leave something behind. Aside from the entertainment and connection, it is a way to keep us alive, a way to leave a piece of me and memories behind, be it via posts, stories, writings and shares... snippets of life. I admit I do enjoy looking through the pictures on my profile and reminiscing those particular moments.
But what if what was meant to preserve time and moments has become the time-stealer instead? The very thing we would rely on to bring joy in the midst of sorrow, when we are no longer around and we want to look back, instead become the thing that pre-maturely steals our joy and the moments that would have and should have been if we had not been so preoccupied with this so-called digital legacy.
Two things come to my mind.
The first - social media causes us to compare our lives to others, like it or not. Usually not on purpose, but humans just tend to. And comparison is the thief of joy.
An example, I just celebrated my birthday and so did a friend. She had the whole works - weekend hotel getaway, two hours full body spa, fine dining for dinner to celebrate and all put neatly in an Instagram post. The basis of course of gratitude and thanks, not to brag. It was definitely not my type of life, but oh, how it made me want it too!
That I forgot, I got flowers from friends, cakes and a surprise from colleagues, lunch with my comrades in Christ, dinners with my family members, celebrations with our church family, a book that I have been wanting to get. My heart was full and all throughout I felt extremely grateful and blessed. I even chose a song should i need one for my birthday Instagram post (Goodness of God) because this was indeed Gods goodness over my life.
And that was God's goodness over her life. However, social media makes us forget at times because our eyes are seeing, looking, watching the lives and posts of others instead of keeping our eyes on God and our own goals, missions, and prizes.
The second thing social media does is create lots of noise and distractions.
So, I did uninstall the Instagram app for a couple of weeks, just to get away for a bit. And I recently reinstalled it because I wanted to post about my kid's birthday and me turning 35 (some reflections and ramblings, the whole memories and legacy to look back on kind of thing). And I started scrolling through some stories and boy, was I shocked to see what was being suggested - sexy videos, crude jokes, scantily clad bodies. I have no idea what algorithms are being used, but it is definitely hard to keep your mind on things that are good and pure when these sort of content are just pushed into your feed or so easily stumbled upon. And we did discuss this in school the other day, times have change, morals and norms are shifting because of technology.
Yes, you can learn a ton of things from social media too - exercise, cooking, language, techniques, planning, cleaning, etc. But there is a lot of noise.
And when things are noisy, it is hard to listen to the still small voice of God. It's hard to breakaway from the doom-scrolling, the quick clips that turn from seconds into hours. It's hard to pay attention, to meditate, to think, to evaluate.
And unless we are aware and careful, on our guard and vigilant, we easily fall into the noise, I know I do.
I compare,
I scroll on,
I do not discipline myself and stop.
And if I am being honest,
it takes my time,
my sleep and rest,
my attention away from my children, my husband,
my presence because I am elsewhere but there,
my thoughts, my attitude, my character,
my love for others because it takes away community and connection.
So, thirty five.
What a wake up call. What am I leaving behind? How am I living?
My relationships, my actions, my words, my interactions.